Comments

1. Reciprocity

   Wouldn't you appreciate it if you were helpless and being mistreated and somebody stepped in on your behalf? Prior to Americans getting more involved in each other's lives, women were raped and beaten by their own husbands to an even greater extent than today; children were abused and neglected by their families at alarming rates (when is the last time you saw a kid with rickets at the playground?). There is a thing called social pressure. Peer pressure. External social control. All societies have it. Churches have it. Even the counterculture has it. We decide that we like to see clean, healthy, well-dressed children. Families who cannot live up to these standards are not welcomed into the fold of the majority, who do. If we were to go back to facing forward and ignoring the plight of others, we would not be doing society any kind of service.

   5 months ago In response to The Nanny Diaries

2. What's worse?

   Seriously, I think a LOT depends on the social scene at the establishment. If it is a restaurant that caters to families, fine. Table service would be a better option. I'm a mom and would drink with friends while my child is present. Not like a rock star, but a decent wine to compliment cuisine, sure. Would I take my kid to a smokey dungeon of broken glass and rude language? No. Would I intrude on a romantic night spot where people propose marriage and celebrate anniversaries? NO WAY. I don't think it's right. The problem is people who can't seem to set (and reinforce) limits with their kids. I like the idea of the old school pub or beer garden or tavern where all are welcome like in Europe. But not every place can offer the same kind of hospitality. Kind of nice to have options.

   5 months ago In response to Babies in the Bar

Define what responsibility means to you.