The Responsibility Project^®. Exploring what it means to do the right thing

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• January 9, 2010 by wweller

  I think the guy was right to pocket his ring. The girl wasn't cut from the same cloth as he was. Situational ethics separates a lot of couples.

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  • February 7, 2010 by Anthony Massey

    I believe opposites do attract. Take religion, death penilty, Pro-Life, veggies to bloody to nutty. (Veg. Carn. Vegean) Its that quest to change people inside us all. Ive been with my common law wife 11 years now. If you were to simplify it she was cut from egypitian cotton and I steel wool. Shes Korean Im pale. So take the risk, and take the chance. You just might be able to find that future soul mate. Do I think he did the right choice no. He should of married her with no prenup then took her for what he could. See ladies how many of you want to debate me on that. My point proven.

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    • May 7, 2010 by pao

      sadly... you missed the point

    • June 14, 2010 by Wilma Jackson

      I don't have a problem challenging you, first I suggest you make your soul mate legal. do to Gods word. other wise men or women shouldn't take each other for what that can get from each other. We should get to know our partner and more trusting in God and trust in each other and taking each other for broke is not correct.

  • February 19, 2010 by Buck McKibben

    "Situational ethics" equals no ethics. Things are true or they're not. Lawyer's professional attitude that intentionally misleading people is OK as long as the specific words you say are true is a twisted attempt to justify a more sophiticated form of lying. The guy was smart to retrieve his ring, because people who lack ethics often lack them in every aspect of their lives...including relationships.

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    • June 27, 2010 by mitch

      i agree with that!

    • July 21, 2010 by Julie

      I also agree. More often than not, people who lack professional ethics also lack ethical behavior in their personal life, with friends, in their marriage and in dealing with the general public. Good for him and shame on her.

  • March 3, 2010 by Juan

    Thank you “o” for posting a Spoiler at the very top of the page!!! Try to make your comments without affecting the curse of the films!

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    • April 9, 2010 by C

      before you watch the film? These aren't reviews...what use are the comments until you have watched the film?

  • May 1, 2010 by Cecilia Ama Anderson

    I think the guy may not be too sure about his own feelings because no relationship is perfect and taking his ring because an identified weakness in his fiancee should not end their relationship. Even in marriage, relationships still need to be worked and regulary to keep the love frame burning.

    If he really loved Ann, he can share with her and help her understand what his position is when it comes to such situational ethics and building values for yourself.

    Ann wanting to win all the time connotes the fact that she has a personality disorder where she has to use any means to win a case. Wanting to prove yourself all the time has its own underlying cause and I believe Reider can help overcome that weakness.

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    • June 27, 2010 by mitch

      only ann can overcome her own weaknesses

  • July 5, 2010 by Gyurn Bjorkunson

    I totally like agree like!!!!!!

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• January 9, 2010 by Jeremy Gove

  Shouldn't they be requesting soju instead of sake at a Korean restaurant? Or maybe it's a multinational restaurant with Korean writing on the door? I would have requested gimbab instead of sushi.. but anyway, I think he's lucky that her telephone kept ringing; that probably made the right choice easier for him.

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  • February 10, 2010 by Greg Wotton

    The door does say "ROTATION SUSHI" in Latin characters on the door. The characters below are in Kanji. He's very lucky. Some of us discovered basic ideaological differences years AFTER we were married.

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  • March 27, 2010 by joe

    You are totally lame. Who picks apart an ad that's trying to promote responibility? Oh, not sake, it's blah blah. Who cares? Grow up...

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• January 13, 2010 by Keith Thompson

  Marraige is not something that one should enter into if they have serious doubts, or doubts about serious potential conflicts of "philosophy" or morality. Better to take the ring back now and verify if what you are concerned with is valid or not than to close your eyes to the potential problem just because you brought it with you with the intent on giving it then.

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  • June 27, 2010 by mitch

    doubts are normal. read freud.

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• January 14, 2010 by Robert Gold

  I am a little uncomfortable with an insurance company posting a film under the guise "responsibilityproject" whose primary theme seems to be to make lawyers look bad. Insurance companies would like nothing more than to see tort reform legislation to make their clients (e.g. doctors) less exposed to litigation.

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  • June 27, 2010 by mitch

    i dissagree. from what i could see, they (the insurance co.) managed successfully to show us both sides: the honest and dishonest...the ethical and unethical...the educated and miseducated...the trust and distrust...the just plain ugly truth.

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• January 14, 2010 by Michael

  1. Sort of a bad place and time to pop the question 2. Lawyers are about representing a client to make the situation come out as best for the client as possible, whatever they did, be it right or wrong. 3. Conflicting views I think are ok in marriage. It's the ability for both people to understand, accept, and respect each others's view. Couples are never "perfect" and some conflict is to be expected. Differences with opinion and view I see as flexibility for the couple to succeed. People tend to come together not just for the same things but by bringing in unique qualities the other person may lack and desire in themselves, but can live the idea out through someone else they can love. Some things are best the same, some not.

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  • April 27, 2010 by sarah

    agreed ... thank you

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  • June 27, 2010 by mitch

    nope. the more you have in common, the better it will be. why? because there will be less conflict - especially when agreeing on raising the kids. commonality creates a more stable long-term relationship. it's where the rubber meets the road, so to speak.

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  • July 10, 2010 by Sandy

    Personally, I think he did the right--the only--thing he could do. He lost respect for her and she apparently had lost respect for him a long time before because her cell phone had more of her attention than he did. Love is needed but so is mutual respect. Once respect is absent, one can't accept the person when they disagree. Believe me, I know.

    By the way, these actors "happened" to be lawyers because that was a scene from an episode of a TV program. I watched it last week on Hulu.

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• January 17, 2010 by gullsher

  no comments

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• January 18, 2010 by Rose Adler

  Loved it. So inspirational. Also saw Guest, which was very well done.

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• January 21, 2010 by brandi lynn nocole ramsey

  animal abuse is bad

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• January 24, 2010 by genisa Ogden

  Like most men, when they are feeling that there is a difference in opinions they tend to dismiss their true feeling of the love that they say regularly to their mate. This man like most is insecure with the fact that his mate had a difference of opinion and the love he claimed he had for her was soon forgotten because of her conviction to what she represented. Bet if it had been him who felt strong about his case he wouldn't understand her not being there for him. People want to be with those who think like them. My boyfriend wanted to be with those who smokes weed, the difference in opinion in this regards meant that he would rather fault me for my unwillingness to conform then to accept i am a nurse and that is not a practice i do or appreciate people doing in my life smoking dope. People chose to overlook minor differences and that is what i did. Do you think it made him appreciate my difference of opinion or do you think it allowed him to distance himself from me and still hang out with his family and those that did the same lifestyle of that offensive and immoral behavior? So much for the famous words LOVE!

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  • February 5, 2010 by robert roberts

    She doesn't even have the time for him.... turn off. Her work is everything. Of course it's the times and everything is sacrifices for the carreer

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  • February 10, 2010 by Greg Wotton

    I think that the issue here is a very base level difference in morality. She took the case and is willing to lie to protect someone who is guilty. He is a public defender who believes in reform. When he points out that a criminal from a bad home may get a mitigation of sentence he's pointing out that, at no time, is he lying. The key is that he asks "Do you believe the ball player is innocent?" I also have little tolorance for pot-smokers and I would never go out with one. I can hardly stand to be near them socially at neighbourhood functions. That's not a small difference to overcome because of "love". Drinking Coke vs Pepsi, that's a small difference where there is room for compromise. The way you describe your situation there is no respect for your point of view and your lifestyle. It is a major incompatability. Love doesn't last forever, it doesn't. It burns hot and fierce and then cools. If there is no relationship, shared interest and mutual respect at that point, then nothing remains. If you respect yourself then you won't compromise on base morals and ethics, and that's what happened in this video. He suddenly saw her as she truly was and what he saw was ugly and offensive inside.

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    • June 27, 2010 by mitch

      right on!

  • March 25, 2010 by plex350

    Your story is very sad, and proves the point, I think, of the movie itself. This is not about favorite colors or what kind of soda/beer/popcorn you like and he doesn't. There are major philosophical differences about life and living it that do matter in relationships and marriages. A nurse and a drug addict? Love does not mean blind acceptance, that is lust. Part of love is self respect, and with self respect you can put boundaries on the types of behavior you are willing to accept from your mate. It is also nearly impossible to respect another person if you don't respect yourself. I wish you the best and I am certain you will be happier without the drug addicted anchor.

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  • April 23, 2010 by Cheri

    I didn't see this as just a difference of opinions but a difference in values and morals. I am glad he did not follow his heart but his head in this situation. Finding the differences prior to marriage allow for an educated decision for life. Too many people excuse their actions by "compartmentalizing" giving them a reprieve of conscience when going against their supposed values. If those values were truly deep, they would not be able to push them aside so easily.

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• January 29, 2010 by Laura Soderberg

  Yes, the law may support the actions of the Baseball Players attorney, and perhaps that makes her legal strategy lawful. But, it does not make her strategy righteous. And, living on the fringes of integrity, as if being "legal" gives us a free pass, is wrong. Willingness to live in such a way, indicates a fundimental flaw in character. One that can not be compartmentalized to "work" only. A person of worth and values could never be compatable with a person of compromised, profitable and convenient ethics.

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  • March 11, 2010 by office space

    this is insurance industry propaganda and if you dont realize that you are hopelessly incompetent.

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    • June 27, 2010 by mitch

      :O)

  • June 18, 2010 by Jim

    Thank you. This is one of the fundamental issues in today's increasingly unethical world. You are right. A good lawyer does not compromise his or her integrity to in representing his or her client, nor does he or she lie or make false accusations to win for a client. What are law schools today are teaching as situational ethics is not really ethics, but an end run around the law and an immoral compromise.Our justice system was founded on principles of the presumption of innocence and the preponderance of all the evidence. Today, anyone accused, whether in civil or criminal court, is presumed guilty and required to "prove" that they are not guilty. On top of that, the most common technique of the legal profession to to hide evidence, to keep much of the evidence out of the courtroom by legal paperwork, and to prevent the discovery of such evidence. Depositions are carefully scripted by devious lawyers so that their clients are not forthcoming, but not actually telling a total lie. It is really a sad time, when daily honest, hardworking people of integrity are stripped of their livelihood and the life's work by unscrupulous, unethical attorneys out to line their own pockets and boost their egos. Just such a case is happening right now in my state, where three unethical lawyers and their unethical clients through apparent verbal fraud are destroying multiple small businesses, small banks and hundreds of jobs on the say so of a greedy liar making false accusations to line his pockets and the pockets of his friends.

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    • June 22, 2010 by Amy

      That was a work of art. You write beautifully!

    • June 27, 2010 by mitch

      amy, didn't you notice all the typo's?

    • June 27, 2010 by mitch

      typoes?

    • July 9, 2010 by WhiskeyTangoFoxtrot

      The term "Intellectual Dishonesty" applies to much of what occurs in civil and criminal litigation. It is the reason for the excessive testing that doctors must order, as a means to practice defensive medicine. It is behind the absurd warning labels that are plastered all over every product that is sold ("Warning: High voltage electricity is dangerous"). It is the reason that American businesses are paralyzed by fear of junk litigation.

• February 4, 2010 by brenda woods

  thought it was tastefully done on how he was able to find out who she really was b4 he asked her to marry him

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  • May 3, 2010 by Donna

    I liked this movie. He felt that pain.

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• February 5, 2010 by towing service

  What is it that people don't understand about the cost involved with operating a reliable towing service. First i'll start by the cost of two trucks. Why two trucks? All rotations require any towing service to have a rollback and dual line wrecker,be avalible 24 hours a day, 7 days a week including holidays, yes this means xmas thanksgiving the 4th. Back to the cost ,each truck will cost a average of 70,000.00 Now we have to insure that truck and storage lot. average cost of about 12,000.00 a year.Next we have to put a driver in that truck that should make 15.00 dollars a hour. What about the cost of fuel,tires, brakes,tags,and other unseen equipment. We never know when the call may come in. The cost of a driver should be around 360.00 per 24 hrs.If the people are smart enough to operate a adding machine of any sort they should appreciate the local towers and what they do for the public around the clock.And to the lady wanting a payment plan,does ingles,wal-mart,mcdonalds,ect. let you have any credit. credit means master card -visa.

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